Imagine yourself coming to a crowded party with a lot of single women around. After a while you notice the hottest lady, drink a couple of wine glasses and come up to introduce yourself. After receiving a discouraging refusal, you return to your company and no longer dare to approach anyone that night. Or even go home, and continue to flirt on the Internet. Familliar situation?
It could all be different: you come to a party, look across the room while sipping your beer. You check out several girls who are clearly interested in you, choose the sweetest one, and you go to pick her up. Of course, she’s agreed into it. She might pretend to be unapproachable, it’s a custom with girls. As a result, you leave the party with the girl by your side.
The difference here is not the amount of booze. It’s in the ability to pinpoint girls who sympathize with you through non-verbal gestures. You won’t go far if you judge only by the girl’s words. They speak body language and use their gestures and emotions. This article will teach you to understand women’s undercover sex signals. It’s toriginal book’s summary, but it has everything you should know.
Basic principles
In fact, girls who go hunting for guys, not the other way round. They looking for a guy, and let him know through non-verbal gestures that they are ready to get to know you better. The ability to pick up on these signals will allow you to meet girls and never hear the word «no» again .
Lail Lowndes calls it «Undercover Sex Signals» in her book of the same name. Below we’ll tell you about all these signals, as well as some detected through our own observations. Also we’ll teach you to respond to these signals properly.
1.Signals sent by a girl as soon as you enter the room or her sight.
Estimating sight.
Once you’ve entered, the girl will examine you from head to toe in a matter of seconds. The order of inspection is as follows: shoes, legs, buttocks, clothes, hands, fingernails and face at the end. Although this is not yet a signal. Based on this quick analysis, the girl decides whether to send you further signals or not. But you can tell that she doesn’t mind if today she’s meet the right man. We already wrote how to become one in the How To Get a Girl article.
Positioning with a straight back.
Noticing an interesting man, the girl takes a more attractive pose, throws back her shoulders. She tries to attract attention.
2. A signal that several girls (at least two) will give if they like you.
Girl’s chatting.
If girls liked you, they’ll certainly discuss you, while giggling, or even cuddling up to each other. No need to be horrified and panicked by noticing the girls who giggling, looking and pointing at you. The truth is that they like you.
3. Eye contact across the room, says that she wants you:
Ku-ku!
She’ll shoot you with her eyes, looking up from a cover, for example a book, a menu, a phone. Play sexy hide-and-seek with her, and soon she won’ be hiding anything from you. :)
A shy geisha.
When Catching your look, the girl is embarrassed and will look down and to the side. Such a reaction is embedded in girls by nature. But within 45 seconds she’ll look at you again, if she’s interested.
However, if the girl’s eyes went up, it’s better to look for another girl for today. If her eyes are looking at the walls, she’s not yet decided how much she’s interested in you. Be on top.
A mocking look.
She will look at you sideways, or sidelong, even if she talks to someone or is distracted by antyhing. Get some additional signals from her, and come up. Don’t wait for the girl to get a squint.
4. Signals associated with an easy undressing of a girl who clearly declares that she likes you.
Exhibitionism.
A girl accidentally pulls the clothes in such a way that you see a little more of her naked body. For example, the edge of her skirt, blouse or dress. If she goes further to and show more of her breasts, then she likes you, but she wants to change the subject of the conversation.
Playing with a shoe.
A girl will toss the shoes with her toes, wiggle the shoe from side to side exposing her foot at the same time. If it’s winter, and the girl unleashed her winter boot, starting to play with it with her foot, then she really likes you. But if you can’t see her legs, do not go under the table to see if she plays with her shoes. Watch for other signals.
Showing her armpits.
A girl can take an effective pose (for example, throwing her hand behind her head), so you could see her armpit. Ladies normally don’t show this part of the body, so if you see it, it’s already something to have! It means you have a chance to see more soon.
Demonstration of legs.
Girls know how to use their beautiful legs to attract men. She’ll take a pose in which her legs look most seductive, pull the edge of the skirt, or even slightly spread her legs to tease you.
5. Multiple signals related to distance between you. The girl who submits them, wants to tell you that she would like to get to know you better.
Close contact.
She’ll sit down or stand closer to you than is deemed appropriate. Even if it’s quick and barely noticeable, she’ll expect that you catch her gesture and join the game.
Invading your personal space.
She will move her hand, leg or any object closer to you, getting into your «personal space». If she leaves her toothbrush in your bathroom after two months of your relationship, that`s also one.
Accidental touch.
This is a fully conscious step, which has nothing accidental to it. When touching you, even very quickly, the girl gives you a signal, which certainly calls for a warm respond. Don’t show that it was unexpected or surprising for you.
Inclining.
In case she can’t sit or stand close to you, the girl will lean towards you. She can do this to hear you better in a noisy room that doesn’t always refer to hidden sexual signals, but at least she wants to hear you. During the game with these signals, the girl can both approach you and move away. In both cases, do the same thing as she. If you’ll move too close when she moving away, you’ll lose.
6. The six signals that the girls give to you mostly with their hands. The message is «you turn me on.»
Games with jewelry.
A girl often starts automatically fiddling with her necklace or bracelet when she sees a hot man – he makes her nervous. But more experienced women know that they can attract the attention of a man, drawing attention to the adorned parts of her body.
The palm is a wind vane .
You can always understand the women watching her palms. They, like a wind vane, can tell if a fair wind blows to you from that girl. If you attract her, the palms of the girl will go to you, and they’ll tremble slightly, saying “come closer”. But if she doesn’t care about you, she can prop her chin with her knuckles outward, or clench her fists if she doesn’t like you.
Neck Exposure.
This gesture means submission, capitulation. It takes its roots in the primordial world. The fox that lost the fight shows his neck, allowing the opponent to inflict a deadly bite. And the woman, who fell under your charm, shows you her neck as a sign of readiness for further stage-by-stage capitulation.
Perfection.
If a girl adjusts her makeup in the presence of a man, she pursues two goals at once: to look prettier, and to attract attention to herself. If there’s only unsuitable gentlemen around, a woman will not do this, except in the subway.
Hairy coquetry.
In pursuit of your attention, a girl can begin to play with her hair, stroking it, pushing it or twisting it on her finger. If she maintains visual contact with you at the same time, then she’s ready, you can come up and introduce yourself.
Stroking.
As you know, girls «pleasure centers» are located throughout the body, in contrast to localized male centers. Therefore, there is nothing surprising when a girl begins to stroke herself in this game. Noticing the positive male reaction, she can start doing it even more.
7. Signals, meaning that the girl is very nice and easy with you.
Violent gesticulation.
A woman starts to be a girl. She’ll behave with you energetically and openly, which results in the next signal
Silly.
Her actions will be full of some sweet and cheerful silliness. Maybe she’ll even wink, monkey. But you know – you just gone into that woman`s head
Mirroring.
She can start to copy your movements, freeze in the same poses. The girl shows that she ‘s tuned to the same wave as you. This trick is taken from NLP (neurolinguistic programming), and it can do this both consciously and unconsciously.
You can experiment – raise the glass and see if she does the same. Put your hand on your knee, and see if she does the same, etc. You can use mirroring to make the girl feel comfortable with you too, but don’t overdo it, otherwise you’ll be uncovered.
8. And, finally, the most frank, the most furious, the most desperate signals of girls, which it is impossible not to notice. For the girl to start using them, we must bring her to despair by being blind to her previous signals. Or just alcohol.
Licking her lips.
The girl knows that wet lips look more attractive. But if you see this signal, then it’s not only lips that already wet. Licking her lips, the girl subconsciously says «Man, you look very seductive.»
Sexy thing.
This is when her hands touch an object with obvious sexual overtones. If she runs her finger along the leg or edge of the glass, especially the middle finger or ring finger, then she mentally spends the time with you …but most likely a night.
Hard biting.
A girl will be tempting to bite any object. Whether it is oblong or not, it’s not so important. In any case it’s not so difficult to guess what it means. :)
A combination of signals.
Reading all these signals can be compared with reading a text. Certain body movements, of course, can’t unambiguously talk about her predisposition to anything. But together they make words and sentences. If you read and understandtheir meaning you can to reveal the innermost desires of a girl.
She’ll not necessarily smile at you – she’s a modest creature. But for sure she’ll take an attractive pose, she will look at you sideways, at the same time she’ll take some object in her handor will be teasing herself. In this case, you can say that she likes you – take it.
Nonverbal gestures of sympathy only work together !
Your reaction to the signals of the girls.
Sending you non-verbal gestures of attraction, the girl expects a positive reaction from you. If you do not react to them immediately, swallowing her bait, then the girl will switch to searching for a cleverer man. In this case, your answer should correspond with her signal in intensity and style. Let’s give some examples.
- If you just entered the room and noticed how the girl sends you a bunch of signals, reward her with a look and a charming smile. At this stage, this is enough.
- If this is already the second round of the game, and the signs of sympathy are becoming clearer, you can slightly nod. The girl, most likely, will look down and turn away – that’s how she’s made. But don’t worry – she still likes the game.
- When she starts playing with her hair, you can, by noticing it, express your pleasure with a smile, or praise its wonderful color, shine, silkiness or her, curls – choose what suits her best.
- The same applies to her jewelry.
- You have to be very careful with signals related to distance. Play along with her in this game, stay in the situation — draw closer and move away with her.
And so on. I think you’ve got the sense. This is her game of tennis, and your task is to be a worthy opponent for her. If she gives you the ball, and you’ll be able to return it to her, and even with a twist, she’ll willingly continue the game with you, which will be a win-win for both of you
If you didn’t seem to have enough of this summary, read the book in full: Undercover Sex Signals by Leil Laundes, it’s worth it.
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